Q: Dear Rubbin
Why would a guy ask you not to date anyone else while you are seeing them but they don't want to make a committment of us being a girlfriend/boyfriend? Frustrated in Raleigh.
A: Dear Frustrated
Hmmm. You didn't imply that he doesn't want to be seen in public with you (see my blog posting on keeping a down-low relationship). Seems to me he is a control freak. I think he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I would see how he responds if you turn the tables on him - see how he would like it if he was not to date or see anyone else, but not be his girlfriend. It appears that you are a psuedo-couple, I would try to get some clarification to get to the root cause. There's got to be a reason. Maybe he really likes you but is afraid of making a long term committment because of something that happened in his past.