Rubbin: What are "sweet girly dreams"?
Sweet girly dreams are unrealistic expectations, i.e.
a) I promise I'll pull out.
b) I won't cum in your mouth.
c) Of course I don't need a condom I've got a vasectomy.
d) Of course I'll respect you if you give me a hummer during rush hour traffic.
e) There is a happy ending - unless we're discussing massages.
What of the friends with benefits phenomenon?
The urban dictionary defines friends with benefits as:
"Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment."
"Two friends, a man & a woman, with a casual dating relationship; the benefits can be long,deep,flirting conversations, or jack and jill sessions, or mutual masterbation, or make-out sessions which can include just an exchange of oral sex or penetration sex without commitment."
So this clearly involves a purely sexual relationship - kinda like the jack / jill sessions, but that's another blog posting. I would tend to think this has been going on since the first caveman saw the other hottie cavewoman in the next cave over and didn't want to ruin a good thing he had in the first cave. I think this harkens to being carefree without any attachment - emotional or otherwise. Two people who know exactly what they want, pure raw sex. I think back in college we called it hooking up or just casual dating. I think in order for this to work - the boundaries need to be defined clearly. It doesn't work when either party gets too attached - then a cum to Jesus meeting needs to be had. With the advent of the internet and several adult personal websites (adultfriendfinder, match.com, lavalife) this can be done easier today. Not sure if you can have friends with benefits cam buddies, but I'm sure someone has defined that.